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Yes, this does matter

10/14/2015

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When my children were very young we had a nightly ritual of holding hands in silence before eating.  Then we went around the table taking turns sharing about the bad parts and the good parts of our days.  At some point, during the elementary years, the kids started balking when it came time to hold hands until I started to feel self-conscious about this spiritual moment.  Eventually we let go of the habit and no longer had a moment of gratitude and humility before dinner.

Letting go of grace is one my regrets as a parent.  I wanted my children to have that experience and yet  I didn't hold it up as a value.  Throughout my children’s lives I've asked them to do many things. Sometimes they do them happily and other times they resist.  I know when they resist part of what they are asking me is, “Does this really matter?”  When it came to manners and homework and getting dressed and brushing their teeth and doing their laundry the answer from me alway came back, “Yes, this does matter.  So you are going to do your school work and be polite and wear clean clothes and keep your teeth healthy.”

But when they resisted grace, when they questioned the importance of a spiritual ritual around food, I tacitly answered, “No, this is not important,” when we stopped doing it.

When they were in high school I  reasserted the value of a nightly grace.  When I brought it up, my kids were not just willing, but eager.  So we transformed our dinners  by saying something along these lines:  “God, thank you for the abundance we are about to receive and for all that went into bringing it to our table”.  It’s not fancy, it doesn’t take long, and half the time we only remember to say it when we are part way through the meal.  But it does the trick.  It reminds us all that we are connected to so much else, the interconnected web of all existence and to be grateful for the blessings in our lives.
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    Laila Ibrahim is a passionate author set out to write stories of love's ability to transcend human-made systems of oppression.

     Living Right goes beyond the headlines to reveal the life and death stakes when a devoted mother struggles to reconcile her evangelical Christian beliefs with her son’s sexual orientation.

    Set in the antebellum South, Yellow Crocus is a rich, evocative tale of love, loss and redemption between an enslaved black woman, her privileged white charge, and their fight for freedom.

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